Wednesday, November 16, 2011

Is it Two Timing?

I've been seeing the same TMJ disorder specialist for a few years now. Initially I had great results from her treatment. The splint she made was a god send, and I went from barely being able to open my mouth to put a fork full of food in it, to a somewhat normal range. The clicking, locking, and all that jazz quit.

However with the correction of those little problems I had an increase in facial pain. I've blogged here before how I seem to have a constant headache at times. Most days I wake up feeling like somebody went three rounds on my face, I'd swear they did, if I had some bruising. Needless to say that coupled with my "not a morning person" personality makes me a screaming banshee most mornings. I don't like being a screaming banshee.

So today after about two solid weeks of waking up and my first stop is a bottle of ibuprofen, even before I pee I decided I had to do something. I had noticed there was a dentist that has TMJ treatment on his door, next door to my regular dentist. I called and made an appointment. I'm just going to go in for an initial consultation to see if he would do anything differently. The unfortunate part is that TMJ treatment isn't covered by insurance so we'll see.

Honestly I don't think I'm doing more than getting a second opinion, which is what any wise person does. However, I'm doing so as I don't seem to get any other treatment options from my regular TMJ doc than "you can go to physical therapy" well yeah, but lady I have two small children, one who isn't even in school full time, a husband who has the most inconsistent work schedule known to mankind, and frankly it's time consuming and expensive to go three times a week to have them put ultrasound on face and rub my neck and cheeks (though I admit it feels great and does help to an extent)

In other news I'm trying to get the gumption up for the holidays. Thanksgiving is around the corner and I haven't given one thought to the menu. Hubby's mother and grandmother are coming for visit which will be fun. The kids can't tell me anything they want Santa to bring other than Legos and video games which at this point I'm utterly tired of spending money on those. The one thing Igor has said he wanted is one of those power wheels drive cars and that's not gonna happen for too many reasons to list. When I told him that I didn't think Santa could get that in his sleigh I was promptly corrected by Sonny Boy who reminded me that Santa brought that giant race track a few years ago. Yeah, but what Sonny Boy doesn't know is that Santa was crying at 1:00 am Christmas morning because said track was an expensive piece of junk that wouldn't go together properly. Ahh Christmas memories, now I know why my mother was so glad all the Santa ruse died.

Hubby did text me earlier this morning and asked if I wanted to meet him half-way to his work to eat lunch. That was nice, till he said "make sure to bring my wallet" ha ha

I debate on if I should even say anything, but hey it's my blog. There is a blogger, I read regularly. The lady is in the process of adopting two young children from Russia - quite an expensive process - and has had fundraisers and the like and has not been the least bit shy asking for items to put in online auction, or please donate to the chip-in etc. Fine, whatever, I understand it's expensive. What's got my goat is that this week she announced that she and her husband are going to go on a cruise. REALLY?!? Your asking people for money, or stuff, etc to raise money and your going on a vacation that is fairly expensive, announcing it and then try to justify why your doing it. I just don't get some people. I wonder how much her donations drop off now?

What's your opinion of this?

So, I must run and put on some make-up, brush my teeth and gather up hubby's wallet and Igor from preschool.

Ciao

7 comments:

Mom to Mine said...

Wow abou the cruise! Why would one do that? We skipped our yearly beach vacation last summer b/c we were saving money for our adoption. We did take a weekend getaway right before we left as we needed a break from the sress and wanted to spend one last time together doing something special w/ the boys before we left them for a month. I dunno... I hope your TMJ gets some relief. My cousin had surgery for that. I think she is pain free now. Maybe that's an option? Fix it once and for all?

Winnie said...

If I could be certain that surgery would end this I'd be sign me up right NOW, and I wouldn't care if insurance covered it or not. However almost everything I read says avoid surgery unless you have no further options as it's not overly effective. Glad your cousin found relief.

Yeah, I'm amazed by the blogger. Maybe a weekend at a B&B, or nice hotel, but even a "cheap" cruise is expensive in my book.

Diana of Diana Rambles said...

OMG...I have MAJOR opinions about people wasting money + fundraising! Sure, no one is perfect with their money (we got out to eat from time to time & have a phone contract...but NO debt other than a mortgage and we have a lot of equity in our home) BUT seriously why should people have to donate to people who can afford to go on vacations, dress their kids in designer clothing, send their kids to private school, live in BIG houses, drive fancy cars, have all the common luxuries, etc??? And how the heck do these people think it's OK to ask people for money?? They should have to work for the money and not expect a hand out. We funded our own adoption & took our 2 older children to China with us...no loans no balance on credit cards. We saved and scrimped AND I got a part time job that we saved every penny of to use for the adoption. I am not saying that people can't ask for help, but they need to adjust their priorities first. I know we cannot afford to adopt again...but you know what...if we REALLY wanted to we'd make it happen by cutting back in certain areas and working extra hard. Our oldest is in college now...which is where our priorities are. No school loans (luckily we got a nice grant based on income) for now. I wish there was a way to make my opinion known to all these people who SHOULDN'T be asking for donations. And I am referring to those people like the person you mentioned who is going on a cruise.

I have a friend who started going to a new dentist for TMJ about 6 months and it's made a HUGE difference for her. Her headaches and upper body pains diminished almost immediately. She has this funky plastic mouthguard/bite thing she wears ALL the time. It affects her speech a little, but that is NO big deal. She goes back and gets a little bit shaved off each time until she no longer needs to wear it. She drives out of town to go see this guy but she says it's so worth it. Good luck with yours!

I responded to your question that you posted on my blog. I do pack bentos for my daughter to bring to school each day. I have a few lunch bags with handles on top so she can keep it level and they stay intact for the most part.

Winnie said...

Wow Diana, those lunches are fantastic! My kids are impressed if I cut the PB&J into triangles!

Yeah, we financed ours as well, can't say we did it w/o debt but nothing we haven't been able to pay off or absorb. When I saw that on her blog I nearly spit out my teeth.

Anonymous said...

Regarding the PAPs soliciting donations then going on a cuise...I'll say that some people really have nerve! Unbelievable. I see it as taking advantage of others and their generosity. And now they'll teach two kids how to be the same way...Sad.

Winnie said...

Make that five kids, they already have three at home!

sorry, that's just my smart alec, I agree anon.

Lin said...

I rarely give money online for that purpose. If they are selling something, fine, but otherwise, I have a hard time handing over cash.

Keep looking and telling everyone you know about your TMJ--Somebody will know somebody who....might have an answer. I had a weird medical condition and I finally found a PT who specialized in my problem. I can report that I am pain-free after 6 months of terrible pain. It was not TMJ, but it was a pain nonetheless.

As for going for treatment--MAKE the time. Even if you have to pack a "Backpack of fun" for your kid and take him with. If the momma ain't happy.....

Really. You need to get yourself feeling better so you can take care of everyone else. It is the sad reality of being a mom. Do it. Do it for YOU. And do it for your family.

As for gifts for the kids--get a lot of small stuff that adds up to lots of packages under the tree: books, fun socks, new pajamas, hot wheels, markers, sidewalk chalk, playdoh, new super bouncy balls, a game, puzzles, etc.